Category: Mindset

The Unconscious Mind

In this article, you’ll find answers to popular questions about the unconscious mind.

The reason I decided to dive into the unconscious is to get a better understanding of how we can uncover things that shape our behaviour whose presence we are unaware of.

One of the main questions I’m trying to answer on this blog and I’m helping my clients every day with is how to overcome limiting beliefs that stop us from reaching success.

You will find a lot of resources out there on how to change your limiting beliefs but you can change a belief only after you have uncovered it and realised that it’s sabotaging your success. That’s why I preach that self-awareness is probably the most valuable skill to have and the good news it can be developed.

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Why Positive Affirmations Work and Don’t Work

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Post date May 5, 2020
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Positive Affirmations and How to Use Them

It’s part of human nature to want to believe that something is absolutely true or absolutely false.

Human beings don’t like uncertainty.

An absolute true or false means we can take action in the right direction with absolute confidence.

And if we’re stuck because we’re uncertain about something, we often find a way to trick ourselves to certainty in order to go ahead and take some action.

That’s not necessarily bad. Belief promotes action which then proves or disproves the initial belief.

You may suffer some losses as a result of your actions, but in the end, there is definitely learning, and learning is always good, no?

Do you believe what I’ve just said?

If you read again, you will see I have my own beliefs. I’ve chosen to believe that learning is good because it promotes experimentation in my life.

I am open to suffering some losses because I believe this is how I’ll ultimately achieve success. But it’s just me and what I’ve chosen to believe.

I’m saying all this because, as you’ll see below, research showed that the efficacy of our affirmations depends on the degree to which we believe them.

For example, no matter how many times and how loud you shout, “I’m a superman”, it will make no difference if you don’t believe this statement deep inside.

I’m talking about positive affirmations— positive statements that you say to yourself to counteract limiting thoughts and uplift yourself.

Before you continue, you may wish to watch a couple of videos first.

In these videos, my friends and experts psychologists, Dr Sophie Henshaw and Bill O’Hanlon share their opinions on positive affirmations with me.

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10 Deep Distinctions that Can Help Entrepreneurs with Anxiety

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Post date April 29, 2020
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As a coach and entrepreneur, I’ve noticed that anxiety in entrepreneurs is often triggered by a series of inner battles between two opposing selves—a higher self and a lower self:

The lower entrepreneurial self: That’s the “selfish” part of us that wants quick success, lots of $$$, status, recognition, instant gratification, security, and stability.
The higher entrepreneurial self: That’s the altruistic, generous, patient and noble part of us that prioritises serving others, looks for meaning and strives for impact.

Although most mentors and coaches may “force” you into your higher self, my experience shows me that accepting and negotiating as much as possible with your lower self can lead you to success faster.

Understanding human nature and working with it can take you further than trying to change it.

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Overcoming Anxiety – A Complete Guide

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Post date April 27, 2020
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This is my complete guide with a whole new and effective approach on how to deal with anxiety.

In this guide, I will NOT ask you to:

meditate
do yoga
go for a walk
visit the gym
eat more veggies
delete your FB account
sniff jasmine essential oil
touch crystals

These are all great things we can do to manage our anxiety—but only manage.

None of these things goes deep into the root of anxiety. It’s the same as taking a pain killer. It certainly makes you feel better, but it doesn’t treat the cause of the problem.

I’m not saying “stop meditation” or “eat junk food”. If you’ve found a way to deal with the anxiety symptoms, that’s a good start.

But, if you only eat broccoli and pumpkin seeds to calm your anxiety, and you’re still struggling, please keep reading!

I’ve been there.

There was a time I ran away from work like a kid who runs away from school.

There was a time I didn’t sleep for two weeks.

There was a time I almost had back surgery to alleviate the physical pain created by my anxiety.

A London’s Royal Ballet teacher—we’ll call her Olivia—called me the other day complaining about her severe back pain, “I can’t get off my bed in the morning”.

Olivia’s story matched my own story (which I’ll share with you later) and the story of my other coaching clients I’ve helped with anxiety—all high-performing, successful, hard-working, military-disciplined individuals with a bag of dreams.

Olivia convinced herself that years of training and dancing left her with permanent damage in her back.

She felt frustration, anger, and fear, “Why is this happening to me? I hate this pain! It’s ruined my life”.

Although I’m not a doctor, I suspected that Olivia’s back was fine.

The physical pain she experienced was a manifestation of anxiety, fear, worry, and emotional pain.

My work was to teach Olivia how to dance with her emotions—acknowledge, embrace and learn from her emotions.

When Olivia learned how to work with her emotions, the physical pain went away.

This guide is about dancing—dancing with anxiety.

Because all anxiety wants is to dance with you.

When you relax and enjoy this dance, anxiety stops becoming a problem.

In this guide:

You’ll learn why all you’ve tried hasn’t worked or hasn’t been as effective.
You’ll understand anxiety on a deeper level.
You’ll discover how to transform your relationship with anxiety and see it from a more empowering perspective.
You’ll find how to get relief from the physical pain you may be experiencing as part of your anxiety.
You’ll feel confident to go back to living a normal life, dream again, and do the things you’ve always wanted to do.

Mindset Personal Development

Mindset Coaching

People get surprised by my reaction when they reach out to me and ask for mindset coaching.

What makes you think you need mindset coaching? Maybe you don’t, I say to them.

And although you’d expect a well-rehearsed answer to a question like that, their answers are always spontaneous, fresh, and truth-revealing.

Magic happens when you tell your story to someone who is genuinely curious and believes that everyone has all the answers within.

The process of giving structure to your thoughts and formulating the problem often reveals the answers to the problem itself.

But first of all, the role of a mindset coach or any coach is to remind his clients that there is no problem in the first place! The coach is there to help his client turn his attention to something positive that — once accomplished — eliminates the problem the client intended to solve (assuming the client ever had a problem).

Because I’ve found that when you focus on the problem, you always see the problem and you’ll never be content until the problem is solved, whereas when you focus on creating something new and beautiful in your life, you feel enthusiastic, motivated and engaged.

The role of a coach is to:

Help you to become crystal clear on your vision
Rewrite self-limiting beliefs and thoughts (install a new mindset that is aligned with your vision)
Point you to that vision and make sure you’re on track
Continue to do all this until you learn to do that yourself without his help

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Growth Mindset Quotes

This is a list of my favourite growth mindset quotes all taken from Carol Dweck’s book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.

As Stanford Professor Carol Dweck explains in her book Mindset: The Growth Mindset is based on the belief that your basic qualities are thing you can cultivate through your efforts, your strategies, and help from others.

👉🏻 For more on mindset and how one can change their mindset, read here.

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Limiting Beliefs: The 6-Step Process on How to Overcome Them

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Post date April 23, 2020
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In this guide, I will explain the simple 6-step process that I use to help myself and my coaching clients overcome limiting beliefs.

This guide will help you to build more self-awareness, uncover those limiting beliefs that are sabotaging your success and replace them with more empowering beliefs that will bring your vision to fruition.

It’s essential to see a limiting belief in the context of what you want to achieve or who you want to be. Only then will it become clear that you must change that belief at any cost.

A crucial component of the process of how I overcome limiting beliefs is self-compassion. You must understand that if you’ve held a limiting belief for a long time, it’s because that belief was there to protect you. You may now have built more awareness to see the limiting aspect of that belief in your life but it was not always like that.

Understanding the purpose that your old belief has served, appreciating the emotional comfort that it has provided you with, and showing compassion to yourself for choosing to believe that old belief, are all contributing to a successful transition towards the new belief.

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How to Find your Passion

This is my guide on how to find your passion.

What if you don’t know what your passion is?

What if you want to quit your job but you’re unsure about your next steps?

I went really deeply into these questions with three clients this week.

Three unbelievably charismatic, creative and high-performing individuals.

One of them asked me the following questions:

How do you find what your purpose in life is?
I know the money will come but more importantly finding what fulfils me and drives my purpose to help others- that’s the job I am looking for.
How did you know what you would be great at?

I get really passionate when I talk to people who are looking for their passions!

In this article, I will share my thoughts and a reference to neuroscience on how you can find your passion.