Author: Angelos

I met my wife on the street.

It was late evening, already dark, and it was snowing.

We stared into each other’s eyes for a couple of seconds and carried on walking. 

I stopped, and I looked back at her.

I took a couple of deep breaths, and I rushed back towards her.

“Excuse me! Hi! I’m Angelos. I want to get to know you”.

She agreed to a 10-minute walk (I had to insist and negotiate!) and we ended up walking for two hours.

She had to work until late that evening and I had to go back home to get the laptop charger—and that’s how our paths crossed.

It was the 2nd of December 2016 at Fontanka River Embankment in St. Petersburg, Russia.

I am yet to find anything more beautiful in life than walking up to a stranger, putting my smile on my face and saying “hello”.

A pick-up artist? No! 

More of a romantic, a believer, a human being.

All my life I’ve worshiped one belief deep inside me:

That people are always open to connect—to be smiled at and smile back.

Whether that person is an old lady at the bus stop, the man in the suit buying apples next to you or your future life partner…

A colleague, a potential client or a person you look up to.

Who would you like to connect with today?

It may change your career, your business or your life.

Loving you, Angelos

This is the perfect example of how NOT to talk to people.

It violates all the neuro-linguisting programming rules!

“Do NOT enter this shop. I’m saying do NOT enter. Go away from our business!”

Absolutely brilliant guys!

Here’s now how TO TALK to people:

1. Tell people what you want them to do—not what you don’t want them to do even if this is easy to grasp.
2. Explain why what you want them to do is important.
3. Ask them what THEY think they should do? Sometimes they know better than you.
4. Use humour! 
5. Remember to thank them in the end. Ooops—at first I wrote, “Don’t forget to thank them”… Yes, it takes practice!

Loving you, Angelos

PS: I’m curious—what message would you use? Leave a comment below.

Stop reading this book Think and Grow Rich.

Please.

Don’t use positive affirmations either.

You don’t become fearless by repeating to yourself “I’m fearless” 100 times a day.

Not only does it not work—you’re setting up yourself to fail.

You’re creating more anxiety, frustration and pain.

Because you’re consciously telling yourself what to do.

Your unconscious knows an awful lot more than you.

If you trust it, it will do the auto-hypnosis that you need.

The reprogramming doesn’t happen from outside.

It comes from within.

Loving you, Angelos

I felt a pain in my chest the other day.

I grabbed my phone—on auto-pilot—and started doing what you see in the picture.

What do you think happened to my pain?

It intensified—and I got more stressed!

Yes, sometimes I forget what I teach:

• I stop.
• I focus on the chest pain and all the other sensations in my body.
• I point to the area of the pain with my finger.
• I observe my feelings.
• I thank my unconscious for trying to communicate with me through the chest pain and the other bodily sensations.
• I smile and allow those sensations to remain there for as long they want.
• I take a deep breath and say, “Mmmm… I’m feeling x, y, z and that’s okay”.
• I understand why I’m feeling how I’m feeling.
• I don’t understand everything—but that’s okay.
• I continue to sit there with my feelings and bodily sensations.

The pain is gone in 5 minutes.

My consciousness is elevated.

Conscious and unconscious are in alignment again.

This is the moment when the breakthrough thoughts start to hit you.

Loving you, Angelos

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Winston Churchill never minded crying in public.

Even as prime minister—in an age that admired the stiff upper lip.

He was a man of such powerful emotions, with a profoundly romantic imagination and capacity for empathy.

He possessed such aristocratic disregard of what others thought of him.

If he felt like crying, he just did.

The concept of the British stiff upper lip was invented by the Victorians, and was especially prevalent in the upper classes, where it was considered infra dig to show one’s emotions openly.

It was widely believed that the British Empire itself depended on the capacity of officers and gentlemen to rise “above their natural human emotions” and stay calm and collected, regardless of whatever appalling thing was happening.

Churchill had the moral courage necessary to cry when all around him, his contemporaries were keeping stiff upper lips.

He was a slave to his emotions, and these emotions were fine and honourable ones.

The decision to fight on against the Germans in 1940 was primarily an emotional rather than a rational one, so we can all be thankful that Winston Churchill wore his heart on his sleeve in the truly extraordinary way that he did.

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This is what Andrew Roberts writes in Churchill’s biography.

I agree with everything except for the word “slave”.

Or you know what? I like it! Being a slave to your emotions is the key!

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Loving you, Angelos