DON’T work on your relationship.
“Working on your relationship” would only spoil it.
What most people do in the name of “working on a relationship” is VERY bad for relationships.
Talking about the past and getting over the past, disappointments and problems, unpleasant memories, expectations…
“Why did you say that? Don’t say that again”.
“Why did you make me feel that way? Don’t make me feel that way again”.
Here’s the best: Talking about how the other person is going to change!
“This is how you’re going to change, right? You are going to change this behaviour and that behaviour…” 🤣🤣🤣
“He’s got enough but I can change him!”
“I gotta fix her up!”
If you want to really work on your relationship, focus on getting over yourself faster when you are in a bad feeling.
Focus on seeing the goodness in the other person rather than their failures.
Focus on enjoying the other person rather than blaming them.
In short, focus on getting back to where you were before you got into a bad feeling!
Loving you, Angelos